I recently wrote an article discussing what to do after the object of your affection crushes your heart.
Now I am going to dive in and talk about ways to see the warning signs before things get to this point.
I am going to discuss how to look for the character flaws, psychological traits and common social behaviors of women likely to be loose and promiscuous.
No matter how you meet the women you date, you always approach the beginning of each relationship with high hopes.
You may have especially high hopes if you are one who is serious about becoming married, even though shes not divorced, and maybe even eventually starting a family.
You might be excited to have that first dinner together, the first long conversation on the phone and the first physical encounters.
More than likely, if there’s a strong mutual attraction, each of you will say the right words and place the utmost importance on carrying things to the next level.
It is great when dating is firing on all cylinders and the future looks bright.
Unfortunately for so many of us, when things start getting comfortable, that is when a member of the relationship who is open to cheating will begin to do so, and it will be when you least expect it.
I came up with some items to look for once everyday behavior begins taking the place of initial excitement.
I’m talking about the period when the passion that once ignited bonfires now begins lighting campfires and things have settled down.
Here are the items:
1. Does she respect you as a person?
In other words, are your needs as important to her as her own?
I have written before about cheaters. This is one of their traits.
If she does not place an emphasis on valuing your emotions, needs and wants as a human being, then fidelity may not be at the top of her to-do list.
If she does not respect you, it is likely she will lie to you. That could mean she is willing to cheat on you.
2. She enjoys being the “life of the party.”
It is good to be with a woman who is well-liked by her peers. It usually shows a sense of mutual appreciation from those who know her best.
But if she is not happy when she is not always the center of attention, this is a warning sign of being insecure. Insecurity can lead to infidelity.
Being with someone like this is tough because they are always looking for someone who can fill their emotional voids.
If you are not able to constantly step up to the plate and do this, they will look for someone who will.
3. Is she extremely short-tempered?
I have dated a few women like this. Their temperament is the same as a rattlesnake’s.
If you find yourself always walking on eggshells while trying to make her happy, chances are you are fighting a losing battle.
People with bad tempers are expressing negative inner emotions that are constantly boiling to the surface.
They are hard to make happy and keep satisfied no matter what you do.
Unless you are a tough, dominant man who can tame and stand up to her behavior, she will go elsewhere and be attracted to one who can.
This type of woman may go from man to man, searching for someone who does not exist.
4. Is she flirty, open-minded or easily distracted by other men?
This is self-explanatory and simple to detect.
Maybe this is what drew you to her in the first place. However, what attracted you to her will also be attractive to others.
Lots of men are like sharks looking for the easy prey.
The question is: Is she acting this way when you are not around and taking advantage of the attention?
5. Is she a risk-taker?
Does she think nothing of walking into a casino and blowing her paycheck on a hand of blackjack?
Has she ever gone skydiving on a whim? Does she speed through school zones anxious to see if she will get caught?
If so, you have one who is very open to chancy behavior. Why would things stop there?
All of this sounds like fun, but most mature, monogamous, responsible women I know would not do any of these things.
Those are not traits of someone who is serious about life.
6. Is she really, really good looking?
Let me first say this: A woman’s beauty is something to admire, cherish, appreciate and treasure. And I, for one, think it is great for a woman to take pride in her appearance.
If you are lucky enough to have one on your arm, good for you!
But the flip side of the coin is men are extremely visual creatures. They all want the shiniest apple on the tree and will knock themselves over to get it.
The problem here is many women will use their beauty to grab what they want. They know in many cases they can!
If you are not measuring up to their pricey standards, they will quickly look elsewhere.
Not all women with beauty are like this. However, a head-turner with an opportunistic personality can be a path to heartache.
7. Did her parents cheat?
Is her family dysfunctional?
Abuses, childhood trauma and parents that cheated on each other are some of the reasons that lead women to cheating.
A child coming from this environment may have a hard time feeling appreciated or wanted and often suffers from low self-esteem.
All of these reasons can make them constantly crave attention and desire multiple sexual partners.
Many rise above the sins of their families. However, statistics show large percentages of them do not.
Most of these points are common sense and there are many more I could write about.
A cheater comes in many shapes and forms, but if you arm yourself with some basic street smarts from the start, you can easily minimize your risk of exposure.
If you have been cheated on, what was the contributing factor? How did you overcome it? Your comments are welcomed.